6 Lessons We Have Learned From Failure Stories
In the last 5 years, we’ve been very lucky to hear the most diverse, fun, authentic and weird stories of failure around the world. And today we’d like to share with you the 6 key things for a great Fuckup Nights presentation that we’ve had from this lovely community.
1. Keep It Simple
10 slides. 40 seconds each. 6 minutes, 40 seconds in total per for each speaker. We know, it sounds strict, or far too brief for sharing such an important life event. But we landed on this precise formula because it encourages speakers to get straight to the point.
Nobody cares about the extra details or unnecessary justifications. The longer it gets, the more you lose your audience. Each word spoken should have a purpose to your story. If it doesn’t have that, kill it.
2. Feel your story
“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel”
Do you know why the best stories are told at 3 am in the bar alongside beers and friends? What these moments have in common (besides the drunk part) is the passion and connection the recounter has with what is they’re saying.
Forget the audience, and imagine that you’re telling the story to your friend. Try to make them feel what you lived.
3. Be vulnerable
This is probably the hardest thing to do.
Being vulnerable means being (totally) honest and transparent. Admitting bad decisions and accepting not knowing what you were supposed to know. We don’t believe in gurus.
“Vulnerability is the core of shame, fear and struggle for worthiness”
It means pain and sometimes it means hurt. It means being open to rejection. But don’t worry too much, we’ll be there with a beer in hand for you.
4. Be yourself
Not all of us are the funny one of our peers, and we shouldn’t have to be, necessarily. If you know yourself, you’re half way.
We love authenticity – and that could mean knowing that you’ll be a better storyteller reading your story like a tale or asking someone to speak on behalf of you on stage you because felt too nervous.
5. Tragedy + time = comedy
This scientifically proved equation tells us that life is a little be easier with humor.
Time brings perspective and allows us to look at the situation in a very different way. It lets us make FUN (wink wink) of ourselves and accept what was once difficult.
6. Have a beer before showing up
There’s nothing better to relieve the tension and make you not give a fuck about what other people think.
Be careful though! With one beer, a storyteller will emerge, and a story will be born.