Why I decided to talk about failing mindfully at TED
You read that headline right, we have officially “made it”. Fuckup Nights was one the stage at a TED Talk. And while we’re more used to, shall we say, a more inebriated audience, it was an amazing experience for our envoy, Leti Gasca (Fuckup Nights co-founder and all-around amazing person). And rather than try to explain the fail mindfully concept, we thought we’d get it straight from Leti herself.
From Leti Gasca, Fuckup Nights co-founder:
I have to start with a confession: when I was invited to give a talk at an official TED event in New York City I thought it would be easier. I already had several years reflecting on the topic of failure and (after taking theater classes for years) I always felt very comfortable speaking in public, so I thought it would be easy and painless. However, it turned out to be more difficult than I could have imagined, and also much more instructive.
TED’s official coaches know what they’re doing. As a first step, they asked me to send them in writing what I wanted to say at the event, so I got to work – and for an entire afternoon I dedicated myself to writing my talk.
I sent it in, and the feedback was crushing: the idea I had proposed was not new, it was not worth spreading, and if I really wanted to participate in TED, I had to propose something radically innovative.
For several days, many ideas came to mind, and then had to be discarded because they were not novel -until one day, during my daily session of mindfulness, my neurons all connected, and everything became clear.
My great idea was something that I had already talked about with many entrepreneurs and with the Fuckup Nights team. It was something that had always been there, but I had not noticed it was novel: the importance of failing in a mindful way, without humiliating those who fail in business.
That’s right, without humiliating. Before, publicly punishing unsuccessful entrepreneurs was common: If we traveled to the past, to the year 800 BC in Greece, we would see that merchants whose businesses failed were forced to sit in the marketplace with a basket over their heads. In pre-modern Italy, business owners who failed and had outstanding debts, were taken totally naked to a public square where they had to bang their butts against a stone while a crowd jeered at them
In 17th century, in France, failed businessmen were taken to the center of the market where the beginning of their bankruptcy was publicly announced. To avoid immediate imprisonment, they had to wear a green bonnet so that everyone knew they were a failure.
And on the opposite side of the spectrum are the modern-day Silicon Valley types or students that brag about failing fast and often – like it’s no big deal.
I think the mantra “fail fast” has a dark side. Of course, failing fast is a great way to accelerate learning and avoid wasting time, however, when we tell entrepreneurs that they must fail fast, we may be promoting mediocrity. Also, the culture of rapid failure can minimize the devastating consequences of the failure of a business in real life.
For example, when my social enterprise failed, the worst part of the process was going to the indigenous community and telling the artisans that the project had died, and that it was my fault. It was not just a learning opportunity for me, it was a loss of income for those women, who really needed it.
That’s why I decided to propose in TED that just as we put aside the idea of publicly humiliating unsuccessful entrepreneurs, we must also put aside the idea that failing fast is always the best. And I decided to propose a new mantra: fail mindfully.
Remember that businesses are made of people, businesses are not entities that appear and disappear magically, without consequences. When a business fails there are people who will lose their jobs or lose their money. And in the case of social or green businesses, there are communities or ecosystems that will suffer from the death of the project.
What does it mean to fail mindfully? It means being aware of the impact of closing that business, being aware of the lessons learned and being aware of the responsibility to share those learnings with the world.
I deeply thank the TED team for helping me spread this idea, for challenging my intellect, and for getting me out of my comfort zone.
Now that we’ve shared the failure at TED, we’d like to publicly invite them to become a speaker at one of our events! There’s gotta be some interesting fuck ups behind such a huge organization! After all, not everything is perfect.
Co-founder of the movement Fuckup Nights and director of the Failure Institute. She is part of the Global Shapers that attend the World Economic Forum. In 2015, she was chosen by The Economist as one of the “Voices from 2040”, and was awarded as Woman Entrepreneur of the Year.